Is it Possible to Love Three Men at the Same Time?

I have always been a one-man-at-a-time kind of girl. I devote all my love and emotions into that one relationship. But I was told by a writer friend of mine the other day that this just will not do. She told me that I have to be able to share my love and time with other men.

There are three men in particular, (not counting my husband) that have a very special place in my heart and my friend knows this.  She said that I need to give all three of them the attention they crave and that I should be open to add even more men to the equation if the opportunity presents itself. I must basically be ready at any minute to switch from one to another. She even said that sometimes I may have to deal with all three or four or five, whatever the case may be, in a single afternoon. Is this even possible? I guess it could be in the prostitute-world but is it possible in mine?

Okay, let me clarify before you start to assume I’m a big-cougar-slut or before my husband reads this and has a coronary on the spot.  I have three manuscripts I would love to see published one day soon. One is getting big edits and the other two could use some tweaking. Therefore, I need to be able to deal with all three of my heroes at one time (according to my friend.) This is a real challenge for me. It’s hard for me to be in love with John one minute, and JT the next and then find my way back to Cameron all in one sitting. All three men are really awesome, but they’re also entirely different. Their personalities, their jobs, their eyes and even their builds are completely different.

I’ve always worked on one manuscript at a time. But I know if I want to make it in this business I need to learn to go from one story to the next and then back again. Somehow I must search within me and unearth that big-cougar-slut so I can move from one man to another with ease and without guilt.

But that’s just the beginning. It’s not only the men that change. It’s the settings, the plots, the secondary characters, the heroines, the . . . IT’S EVERYTHING! How do I handle this? I find I do my best thinking when I handle one situation at a time.

But I guess it’s like with life, that’s really not practical. We deal with many different circumstances every single day. I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. We can go from co-worker, boss, employee, chauffeur, tutor, maid, chef, sister, daughter, mommy to sex kitten all within a twenty-four hour period. It’s just what we do. So I guess I need to bring this multi-tasking approach into my writing, like my friend advised.

If I don’t do this, one of my stories will surely get neglected. It will, trust me, I’ve seen it happen. So in this new year of 2013 greatness, I have vowed to hop from one man to the next. Not a bad resolution if I say so myself. (Just kidding Honey!) But, I really will learn how to switch from one story to the next without bringing destruction to my manuscripts and with any luck making them stronger and keeping them fresh in my mind. This way all of my characters will stay alive and well, instead of neglected and bored waiting for me to get back to them.

How do you handle this story hoping quandary? I would love to hear about it.

Kiss Kiss


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