Advice I’d Give Myself, So Listen Up Self!

To mark the two year anniversary of the Bad Girlz Write Blog, today kicks off a blog series about advice we would give ourselves, if we could go back in time.

If I could give my earlier writer-self one bit of advice, it’d be: Keep things in perspective. Always, always, ALWAYS keep things in perspective. Now, let me break that down a tad.

It is so easy to get caught up in the microcosm that is writing and publication that you forget why you began this journey in the first place. You can lose sight of your main motivation and even yourself. With dreams come the slippery slopes and pitfalls. Between the querying, submissions, book deals, self-promotion, social media, blogging, conferences, blog tours, meetings, reviewers, stars, websites, blurbs, and summaries, a writer can get lost in the crush. You look around one day, trying to remember when and why and wth you’re doing.


We are writers because we write. We’re story tellers. Authors. Dream weavers. THAT is what it’s all about. That is what matters. So, McGovy in 2012, remember that. Write it down and stick it on the wall. Don’t forget why you wanted to do this in the first place. You like telling stories and you have a lot of them to tell. Keep everything else in perspective and DO NOT let it supersede the story or overwhelm you. You’re a story teller, dammit. Tell the story.

On that same note, Do not overcommit. Keep all extracurricular activities in perspective as well.

I can be such a Polly Planner. Little Miss Joiner. Need a committee member? I’ll do it! Want to plan a trip? I can help! Who wants to lead the charge on organizing <fill in whatever project here>? Meeee!

I don’t know why I do it, but I always do. It finally got to be too much, circa 2013. I cannot imagine why. I mean, I only work full time, have a family with a small child and a fledgling writing career. Why not add more stuff to that To Do list? I hit a wall last year and realized my writing and my life were suffering because I tried to do too much. I had to accept that, as much as I may want to cosplay her, I am not Wonder Woman. I can’t do it all. Even Diana would’ve said no to some of the things I took on!

WW-HellNoI didn’t sign up for every possible responsibility in 2014 and it has made ALL the difference. I’m more productive and, more importantly, I’m happier.

It’s all about keeping things in perspective. I wish I’d realized it earlier, but now I know. I hope this advice will help you as well and I wish you the best of luck on your writing endeavors!

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